Monday, 30 June 2014

BRAIN FOOD | THE IMPORTANCE OF READING GREAT BOOKS


Written By Gbanaibolou Burutolu


“A rule of thumb for predicting future success is to know the number of books in the home.”

What's the Big Deal About Reading Lots of Great Books?

C. S. Lewis once said, "We read to know we are not alone." What this means to me is that, through books, more than through any other medium, I can have conversations with the minds of other people--how they think, what they believe, what they value. And more important, I can find out more about myself. There is something identifying and affirming to realize that other people have thought the same thoughts, had the same struggles, felt the same longings.

Reading also provides a window on the world. Robert Lewis Stevenson wrote, "There is no frigate like a book," meaning books can take you to times and places that you could never go in real life. I can read Perelandra and be on Venus or Ben Hur and be in the Roman Empire at the time of Christ or Cold Sassy Tree and feel what it was like to live in a small town in Georgia in the early 1900s.

From an educational perspective, being well-read places you in the small percentage of people who have a broader perspective of life--the movers and shakers of the world. Why? Because readers have superior language and thinking skills. They also know about life outside their narrow slice of it. They can see both the "big picture" and the details and keep a sense of perspective because they have read enough to expand their minds beyond the parameters of their own lives.

What Do We Want to Communicate About Reading?

There are four main concepts we want to communicate to our children about reading: (1) Written words have value because they are a vital communication tool; (2) Written words can be personally enjoyable; (3) Written words increase understanding and power over the world; and (4) Reading is something most people can easily learn to do. We communicate these concepts through:

Having a print rich environment. This simply means our house is full of good things to read.

Reading aloud to the child from an early age, pointing out simple words, running a finger from left to right under the lines of print, and encouraging the child that soon he will be able to read these books himself.

Letting the child see you read. Children take their cues about what is worthwhile from their parents. If the parents seldom read, the children assume reading is not a valuable activity. Boys need to see their fathers read.

Letting the child see you attach value to books. This not only means that you have your own library of personal “treasures,” but it also means that the child sees you enjoy reading and knows you go to books for answers to questions you have.

If books are to become an important part of your child's world, they must appear to be important to you. It is difficult to convince a child who never sees his or her parents with a book that reading a pleasurable activity, and self-education is a worthwhile use of time.

Many parents lament that their daughters become avid readers, but their sons are totally disinterested. Our question to these parents is: Do your children ever see their father read? Boys who only see Mom read begin to associate reading with feminine activities.


Fathers we have posed this question to give all sorts of excuses for not reading--they don't have time, they are slow readers, they can't find anything they want to read, they don't like reading, and so on. If you are a father who doesn't enjoy personal reading, consider reading aloud to your children books that they enjoy. This way they can see you interacting with books, even if you don't read much yourself.

The Benefits of a Print Rich Environment

It has been proven that children who grow up in homes where they have access to lots of good books for them to read whenever they choose have naturally superior language art skills.

For those reasons, we say READ, READ, READ; WRITE, WRITE, WRITE; and TALK, TALK, TALK. A child who hears English properly used at home and consistently reads well-written literature will automatically internalize correct grammar, word usage, capitalization, punctuation, and spelling and will also develop an extensive vocabulary.

If that weren't enough to convince you that reading is one of the most important activities your child can do, Cradles of Eminence studied common factors in the childhoods of 400 eminent men and women and concluded: “A rule of thumb for predicting future success is to know the number of books in the home.” With this in mind, you may want to slowly but surely build your own home library of proven favorites.

Although it may seem easier and cheaper to simply check books out from the library, children love to read and read and reread their favorites, and they take pleasure in having copies of books that have become their special friends. Also, if you have a large family, the books become an investment to be passed down to each succeeding child, and perhaps even to grandchildren.

Gbanaibolou Burutolu is a passionate lover of Christ and studied at University of East London.

Thursday, 26 June 2014

BEYOND THE COVER | LOVE CODE BY PASTOR NIKE ADEYEMI



Love is the most transforming force know to man. We are created in God's image and have the potential to love accept love and love others. When people have experienced rejection, they tend to look for love in the wrong places. It is therefore important for us to have a deep understanding of the nature of love.

In Pst. Nike Adeyemi's book, 'Love Code', she explains to us in simple terms,
»How to find security in God's love
»How to became a channel of compassion
»The practice of endless forgiveness
»How to overcome negative emotions.



CONTENT

Introduction.                                                              9
Chapter One
LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOUR
And Who Is My Neighbor?                                     16
Love Takes Responsibility.                                       18
Pity Versus Compassion.                                          20
Become An Institution of Compassion                      24
The Heart of Gold.                                                   25
Are You Doing The Will Of God?                            27
Shun Insensitivity.                                                      29

Chapter Two
LOVE IS POWERFUL
Be Secure In God's Love.                                           34
Love Is The Greatest.                                                  37
Love And Motives.                                                     38
Love In The Family.                                                     41
Leadership And Love.                                                 42
Love In The Nation.                                                    43
Loving By The Word.                                                 44
Love and Victory.                                                      46
The Love Walk.                                                         48
Charity Begins At Home.                                            52

Chapter Three
LOVE IN THE WRONG PLACES
A Solid Foundation.                                                   58
Stand Strong.                                                             59
People Need Love.                                                     60
Two Are Better Than One.                                          64
Love Gives.                                                                 66
Love Forgives.                                                             67
Accept God's Love.                                                     71

Chapter Four
WALKING IN LOVE
Pursue Love.                                                              81
How To Pursue Love.                                                82
1) Be Like Christ.                                                      82
2)Set Love As A Goal.                                              82
3)Practice Endless Forgiveness.                                 82
4) Live Above Temptations.                                      83
Love As Our Brand.                                                 85
Love Pleases God.                                                   85

Chapter Five
LOVE AND MONEY
Agape.                                                                     89
Phileo.                                                                       91
Eros.                                                                        92
Settle Your Destiny With God.                                  93
Women And Finance.                                               95
Money.                                                                    99
My Testimony.                                                        101
A Word For Young Christians.                                105
Live By Faith.                                                         106
Walk With The Lord.                                              107

BOOK COVER

Wednesday, 25 June 2014

A PEEK FROM A BOOK: REDEEMING LOVE

This is a peek from the book REDEEMING LOVE written by FRANCINE RIVERS
 A story on what a perfect love from God looks like and how it can heal the broken spirit. Romance read have never been this good! An amazing novel to read.


ENJOY THIS BIT OF THE STORY

The rose bushes Michael had brought home for Angel bloomed early. She touches the scarlet buds and thought of her mother. She was so much like Mae. She was good for growing flowers, looking pretty, and giving a man pleasure. Beyond that, what good was she?

Michael should have children. He wanted children.
She knew on Christmas night what she should do, but it was unbearable to even think of leaving him, of living without him. She wanted to stay here and forget the look in his eye when he held Benjamin. She wanted to cling to him and bask in the happiness he gave her.

It was that very selfishness that made her realize she didn’t deserve him.
Michael had given her everything. She had been empty, and he had filled her to over flowing with his love. She had betrayed him, and he had taken her back and forgiven her. He had sacrificed pride to love her. How could she discard his needs after that? How could she live with herself knowing that she has ignored the desires of his heart? What of Michael? What was best for him?
The dark voice spoke often: Stay! Don’t you deserve some happiness after all the years of living in misery? He says he loves you, doesn’t he? So let him prove it!
She couldn’t listen any more. She closed her mind to it and thought of Michael instead, and she thought of Miriam, sister of her heart. She thought of the children Miriam and Michael could have, dark and beautiful, strong and loving. Down through generation to come. She reminded herself that nothing could come from her. If she stayed, Michael would remain faithful until he died, and that would be the end of him.
She couldn't let that be.
When Michael told her he was going into town with Paul, she made her decision. John had remarked only yesterday that the town had grown so big a stage came twice a day. It travelled on high road not two miles from the cabin, just beyond the lines of hills. She still had the gold she had earned from Sam Teal and Joseph Hochschild. Michael had insisted she keep it for herself. It was enough to get her to San Francisco and keep her for a time. She would not think beyond that.


I have to think of what’s best for Michael
when Michael came in from the field, she had a sumptuous venison dinner for him. The cabin bedecked with flowers, the mantel, the table, the bed. Michael looked around bemused. “What are we celebrating?”
“Life,”she said and kissed him. She drank in the sight of him, setting every angle of his face and body to memory. She wanted him desperately, loved him so much. Would he ever know how much? She couldn’t tell him. If she did, he would come looking for her. He would bring her back. Better that he think her carnal and base. But she would have this last night to remember. He would be part of her no matter where she was and even if he never knew it. She would carry the sweet memories to her grave.
“Take me up the hill again, Michael. Take me to the place where you showed me the sunrise.”
He saw the hunger in her eyes. “It’s cool tonight”
“Not too cold.”
He could deny her nothing, but there was a strange uneasiness in the pit of his stomach. Something was wrong. He took the quilts from the bed and led the way. Perhaps she would talk to him and tell him what preyed on her mind. Maybe she would open up to him finally.
But her mood changed, swinging from pensive to abandon. She ran to the top of the hills ahead of him and spun around, her arms spread wide. All around her, crickets sang, and soft breeze stirred the grasses. “It’s beautiful, isn’t it? The vastness of it all. I’m utterly insignificant.”
“Not to me.”
“Yes,” she said, turning to him. “Even to you.” He frowned, and she turned again. “There shall be no gods before me,” she cried out to heaven. “None but you Lord.” She turned and looked at him. None but you, Michael Hosea
He frowned. “Are you mocking me, beloved?”
“Never, ” she said and meant it.
She look her hair down. It spilled on her shoulder and back, white in the moonlight. “Do you remember reading to me of the Shulammite bride dancing for her husband?”
He couldn’t breathe as he watched her in the moonlight. Every movement drew his gave to her and made her aware. When he tried to take hold of her, she moved away again, her arms outstretched in invitation. Her hair floated about her, her voice came husky and enticing in the wind.
“I’ll do anything for you, Michael. Anything.”
And suddenly he knew what she was doing. She was saying good-bye, just as she had the last time. She was deadening his mind with physical pleasure.

When she came close again, Michael caught hold of her. “Why are you doing this?”
“For you,” she said, pulling his head down and kissing him.
Digging his finger into her hair, he slanted his mouth across hers. He wanted to consume her. Her hands were like flame on his body.
God, I won’t let her go again. I can’t!
She moved against him, and he had no thought except for her, and it was enough.
God, why are you doing this to me again? Do you give to take away?
‘”Michael, Michael,” she breathed, and he tested the saltiness of his own tears on her cheeks.
“You need me.” He could see her moonlit face. “ You need me. Say it, Tirzah. Say it.”
Let her go, beloved
God no! Don’t ask it of me!
Give her to me
No!
They clung to one another, seeking solace in sweet oblivions. But sweet oblivions doesn’t last.
Michael held her tightly when it passed away. He tried to hold onto all of it, but they were two separate beings again. He had not the strength to hold them together forever.
She was trembling violently, whether from cold or spent passion he didn’t know. He didn’t ask. He drew quilt. Around them both and still felt her resolve like a raw wound.
It was growing colder, and they needed to return. They dressed in silence, both tormented, both pretending not to be. She came to him as a child would, looking for comfort.
He closed his eyes against the fear uncurling in the pit of his stomach. I love her, Lord. I can’t give her up.
Michael, beloved. Would you have her hang on her cross forever?
Michael let out a shuddering sigh. When she lifted her face, he saw something in it that made him want to weep. She loved him. She really loved him. And yet, there was something else in her moonlit face. A haunting sadness he couldn’t take away, an emptiness he could never fill. He remembered her anguished words on the night Benjamin was born. “I wish I was whole!.”
He couldn’t make her so.
Lifting her, he held her cradled in his arms. She put her arm around his neck and kissed him. He closed his eyes. Lord, if I give her up to you, will you ever give her back to me?
No answer came.
Lord, please!
The wind stirred softly, but there was only silence.
AUTHOR;FRANCINE RIVERS

Monday, 23 June 2014

SPECIAL FEATURE | TREASURED STORY;GROWING UP OR GROWING OLD


The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know.

I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a Smile that lit up her entire being.

She said, "Hi, handsome! My name is Rose. I'm 87 years old. Can I give you a hug?"

I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze.

"Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked. She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, have a couple of children, and then retire and travel."

"No seriously," I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.

"I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!" she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop.

I was always mesmerized listening to this "time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.

Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.

At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her 3x5 cards on the floor.

Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, "I'm sorry I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order, so let me just tell you what I know." As we laughed, she cleared her throat and began:

"We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor everyday. You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead, and they don't even know it!" she said.

"There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn 20 years old. If I am 87 years old, and stay in bed for a year, and never do anything, I will turn 88. Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability," she added.

"The idea is to grow up by always finding the opportunity in change. Have no regrets. The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets."

She concluded her speech by courageously singing "The Rose." She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.

At the years end, Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago. One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep. Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.

-----

Remember these 'inspiring words' in loving memory of ROSE...

"GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY, GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL."

Author Unknown.

Friday, 20 June 2014

SPECIAL FEATURE| HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?


It was a love affair with some sort of godly romance. None planned that their emotion would get a better part of them, but it did in the end. From a hand shake to a kiss, from a kiss to a hug, the touch went further and the hands roamed places it shouldn't. They both felt the urge to stop for they knew it was wrong but at last they didn't obey the voice of caution and they eat the fruit they vowed never to eat till their wedding night.


Her case was different. She didn't ask for it. She was forced to satisfy a man’s urge. A man she never knew.

Two different cases, same result, faced with same kind of choice to make but they both choose differently.

Two different books, written by two different authors with a desire to help those who were raped or gone through the process of aborting a child, find healing.

The Atonement Child by Francine Rivers


AND
Shades of Blue by Karen Kingsbury

These novels can be read by
• Anyone who went through abortion as an escape from shame of unwanted pregnancy.
• Someone who was raped in the past seeking to forget the past, forgive their offenders and reach out to a brighter future.
• People who minister to teenager on abortion and rape issues
• Teenager and youth in a study group activity. It’s an easy way to teach sex education the godly way.
• Parent raising kids
• Adventurous reader.

Thursday, 19 June 2014

MEET AN AUTHOR | NIKE ADEYEMI






Nike Adeyemi is the Founder and President of 'The Real Woman Foundation. An organisation dedicated to empowering women and children economically and socially through seminars, skills training, rehabilitation programs, women's shelters and orphanages.

She is the host of 'Real Woman with Nike Adeyemi' a teaching and interactive programma which airs weekly on various TV stations across Nigeria, South Africa, United Kingdom, USA and other countries, with discussion on various issues that affect women and children.

She is passionate about God, Charity and Education. She is a gracious helper and problem solver, anointed to bring emotional healing to hurting women through the teaching and preaching of God's word.

She is at the forefront in the reformation of dysfunctional families and societies with the belief that right parenting and godly values shapes children into exceptional leaders.

She fosters and cares for many more at the Love Home Orphanage.

Nike Adeyemi, formally trained as an architect with an MSc in Architecture from Obafemi Awolowo University Ile-Ife, Nigeria and an MBA from Business Studies Netherlands, She further trained in Strategic Perspective for Non-Profit Management at Harvard Business School. She is a Fellow of the Institute of Researchers and Administrators of Nigeria, a member of the Nigerian Institute of Social Workers among others. She is a recipient of many awards; also serves as a Board member of other non-profit and for profit organizations.

She is married to Sam Adeyemi, Senior Pastor Daystar Christian Centre and CEO Success Power

She is a dedicated mother of three gracious children.

In her writings, you would see her desire to impact a loving heart to the next generation.

Anyone who hungers to serve effectively with love for and of God as the bed rock, must read her books.
 


BRAIN FOOD | JUNK BOOKS?


It's a known fact that in the physical, food is necessary for growth to occur and at every stage in life, the dietary requirement differs. Therefore, it would be odd to find a child feeding on solid meal.


It's same with books. Book helps us to achieve mental growth, such that we are able to relate intelligently with our society and people living in it based on what we know.

In the words of Jeremy Collier,
"A man may as well expect to grow stronger by always eating, as wiser by always reading".


Back to foods. Health practitioners tell us that there are Junk meals. These meals have no nutritional content. They cause unhealthy increase in body weight and are a number of reasons why the body malfunctions.

Having established these facts, could it be possible that, since healthy food exist alongside Junk foods, healthy books and Junk books could also exist?


Let's look at it in the light of Jeremy Collier's statement and health facts available.
If we grow stronger by eating good food, weaker by eating junk food, than when it comes to books, one expects to grow wiser by always reading good books and remains stagnant by reading junk books.

So what are junk books?

Junk books are books that do not add value to us. They leave us certainly not better than we first began reading. They sap us emotionally and distort our value system. They render us useless positively and stagnates our intellectual capacity. 
Note that as a junk food, junk books can be read sparingly and not as a life support.

What makes a book Junk?

Human needs are different, therefore when it comes to reading, what is junk for one may not be for another. For example, an expert in a field may find a material useful to enable him practice his work efficiently but someone else would look at same book and call it junk.




That notwithstanding, some books can still be termed as a Junk generally.

Here are a number of factors that could make a book Junk
1) An individual's value system.
2) An individual's belief or faith.
3) Books that are irrelevant to one's purpose and field of endeavour

A note of caution; People's books are their ideas. Except it is immoral and extremely provocative to sound judgement, avoid calling the book junk.
Understand that people write according to how they see things and you must not always agree.

I trust that this would help you identify a junk book and be careful with its/their consumption.